The process of adoption is usually presented from the point of view of the child. In Petit Explorador today we have you a look at it from the point of view of the adult, the parent, the legal guardian during a certain time period or for a long time. This adult who has decided to host a child in his or her home.
In the process of adoption, who must be integrated? The child or the adult? Checkpoints in the process of adoption.
- Identify adaptation to the school in terms of building links with teachers and classmates. If the child makes it easy for us, we would quickly identify problems or emotional behaviour. But we must also remain vigilant with children that tend to hide emotions and pretend that everything is working properly.
- Track the acquisition of knowledge and academic skills. This point is reflected by a low academic performance. Here we highlight the fact that children may have difficulty with the language and not with knowledge.
In both situations we talk often of the genetic inheritance. But today we also emphasize the host family. The emotional skills of the family unit that receives and adopts the child and the social environment that surrounds and provide emotional and cognitive learning.
So we propose three activities to do at home with the child adopted or fostered in order to act before you have results that are not entirely positive.
3 activities to do at home with the child adopted or fostered
- Devote one evening a week to the child adopted. Far from regulated activities. Share the evening with him or her and his or her surroundings (friends, brohters, sisters, siblings). This afternoon find out time to talk, laugh, sing, dance, run, walk, play with sand … According to an the age choose one or another activity. But always avoid crowded environments as well as the technology eye contact, emotional and physical according to the age. An environment where you’re for him or her. It can be hard to stop talking, phoning, using your mobile, etc … But he or she deserves it. Observe and interact with him or her, talk to them, listen, help it to resolve conflicts, manage emotions you have. Stay by him in their environment. Notes and help him or her by age at the time or later, to resolve conflicts.
- Bring your own diary. We know that example is the best example. Right? After this evening shared with him or her, spend some time in the dining room, a place where he or she can see you and fill in your diary. If the child can write, do it. SiIf not fill your diary with pictures and leave him some papers and colours so that he or she can join you.
- Take a time to sit and relax. Without doing anything. Put music and stay quiet at home on the sofa. Break the statement that means that this is a waste of time. Relax and enjoy the silence, peace of mind, stillness. If you have some knowledge of yoga we recommend that you first do some exercise to move the blood in your body. If you have no basic knowledge remember those years at school when doing sports.
- Move your neck doing laps
- Move your upper body by the waist from side to side, as a windmill.
- Stretch one arm above your head and the dorsal stretching. Then switch sides.
- Stand up and make the windmill the whole body down to touch the foot opposite to the hand you move. Move your body’s blood. Afterwards sit and just breathe.
With these little exercises you are helping your child to listen him or herself, to feel and discover him self and then express what it is getting him so difficulties in this new phase of his or her life.
Enjoy the process of adoption!